Most people are making it up as they go. This letter is about uncertainty, curiosity, and the freedom that comes from realising you don't need all the answers.

Oscar Wilde once said that if you know exactly what you want to be in life, a teacher, a doctor, a lawyer, you will become it, and that is your punishment.

I've always found that quote fascinating.

Not because there is anything wrong with being a teacher, a doctor, or a lawyer. Quite the opposite.

But because I think what he was really talking about was certainty.

The pressure we place on ourselves to have everything figured out. To know exactly where we're going. Exactly who we're becoming. Exactly what our life is supposed to look like.

The older I get, the more I realise that very few people actually have that sort of certainty.

And that's okay.

In fact, I think it's more normal than we realise.

Growing up, your Grandad used to tell me a quote whenever I felt unsure of myself, overwhelmed, or like I was somehow falling behind.

"In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king."

As a boy, I thought that meant you needed to be exceptional.

Now I think it means something else entirely.

Most people aren't navigating life with complete clarity.

They're simply trying to see far enough ahead to take the next step.

The one-eyed man isn't king because he knows everything.

He's king because he knows enough to keep moving. Just enough to keep appearances up for those who surround. 

And the moment you realise that nobody has it all figured out, life becomes a little less frightening.

You stop waiting for permission.

You stop worrying about whether you're behind.

You stop believing everyone else has been handed some secret map that you somehow missed.

You have a go.

You say yes.

You follow your curiosity.

You make mistakes.

You learn.

You adjust course.

You keep rolling.

Looking back, that's how most of my life has unfolded.

I didn't know I would live in London..

I didn't know I would become a personal trainer.

I didn't know I would work in television for a period of time.

I didn't know I would spend weeks running across deserts or writing letters to my son every Tuesday morning, or writing children's books.

I certainly didn't know I would build a career partnering with brands, telling stories, and creating content.

None of it was planned.

Most of it was discovered.

One step at a time.

One conversation at a time.

One opportunity at a time.

Not because I knew exactly where I was heading.

But because I kept moving.

And that's something I hope you understand early in life.

There is no prize for having all the answers.

There is no finish line where someone finally hands you a certificate that says, "Congratulations. You now know what you're doing."

Most adults are still figuring things out.

They're just a little better at hiding it.

The exciting part is what comes next.

Because once you accept that nobody has it all figured out, your attention can shift to the things you can control.

And for me, the most important of those things is your energy.

I told your mum on the podcast recently that I think everything in life is an exchange of energy.

Every conversation.

Every friendship.

Every opportunity.

Every room you walk into.

Every person you meet.

An exchange of energy.

People feel your energy long before they understand your achievements.

Long before they know what you do for a living.

Long before they know how much money you make, what car you drive, or how many followers you have.

They feel you.

Your warmth.

Your confidence.

Your gratitude.

Your openness.

Your humility.

Or your lack of it.

And the older I get, the more I believe that many of the best things in life are attracted rather than chased.

Not because success magically appears.

But because the energy you bring into the world shapes the opportunities that find their way back to you.

People want to work with people who make them feel good.

People trust people who are genuine.

People remember people who leave them feeling better than when they arrived.

I've built much of my life around that idea.

The brands I work with.

The friendships I keep.

The projects I say yes to.

They're rarely decisions made on spreadsheets.

They're decisions made on feeling.

On values.

On alignment.

On energy.

So if there is one thing I hope to help you with as your dad, it's this:

Don't worry if it takes time to discover who you are.

Don't worry if your path twists and turns.

Don't worry if you change your mind.

Keep moving.

Keep learning.

Keep becoming.

But while you're doing all of that, pay close attention to your energy.

Learn how to set it right.

Walk into the world with confidence, but not arrogance.

Ambition, but not entitlement.

Strength, but not hardness.

Lead with gratitude.

Lead with curiosity.

Lead with kindness.

Because people may forget what you said.

They may forget what you did.

But they will never forget how you made them feel.

And if you can understand that lesson early, you'll save yourself years of searching.

Love,